Before we can choose God, we need to hear about God, we need to be able to think, we need to have the heart to know God, etc. So, who choose who?
Sinners have free will to sin, but no free will to choose God.
Romans 3:10-11 “None is righteous, no, not one. no one understands; no one seeks for God.” Jesus comes to save sinners.
If sinners can choose God, Jesus did not need to come and die on the cross for sinners.
Jesus says, “You did not choose me, but I chose you.” (John 15:16)
God chose us in him before the foundation of the world. (Ephesians 1:4)
Sinners have free will in darkness, they can move, they can breath, but they have no free will to see. They don’t know where God is. Jesus is the light. He is how we can know God, because when we see Him, we see God.
Jesus says, “If you had known me, you would have known my Father also. From now on you do know him and have seen him” (John 14:7).
In John 8:12, Jesus says, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.”
“Having free will” is not the same as “having the ability.”
Before the Fall: Man had free-will to sin and not to sin.
After the Fall: Man only has free-will to sin, not free from sin.
After Born Again: Man is saved, has free-will to sin and not to sin.
In Eternity: Man has free-will. There will be no sin.
Romans 8:30, “Those whom he predestined he also called, and those whom he called he also justified, and those whom he justified he also glorified.”
Suicide is not an unforgivable sin. The unforgivable sin is unbelief (Luke 12:10). As long as he is predestined by God, he will be called, he will believe, and he will be justified and glorified. There is no “but”, no exception in between.
“Harden” means refusing to repent. God allowed Pharaoh’s heart to be hardened. It is sin that hardened a sinner’s heart against God. God did not make Pharaoh against God Himself.
Likewise, today if a sinner goes to hell, it is because of his sins; but if a sinner repents, it is because of God’s grace.
1 Samuel 6:6, “Why should you harden your hearts as the Egyptians and Pharaoh hardened their hearts?”